
Does this mean that on that day when you snap at a co-worker … that you become a cranky snapper? Or does it mean that you’d become a caring communicator simply stepping back to communicate carefully if another person diminishes you or devalues your offering.
Surprising as this sounds, brain research now affirms that how you com
municate today … literally shapes who you become tomorrow.
Here are 5 ways people erode who they’d like others to see in them – all through communication blunders:
1. Communicate opinionated ideas without much regard for other’s input or new facts … and your brain’s basal ganglia reboots for more narrow opinions on that topic.
2. Lie that all is well when you really disagree with an issue, and your brain rewires for more meta messages that drive relations away and create mistrust about you at work.
3. Communicate blame and refuse to speak about changes you’d like to make in your career performance, and you’ll rewire for many more neuron pathways to blame others.
4. Insist “yes but” to challenges at work, rather than risk failure … and you’ll strengthen the “yes but” responses. Unfortunately, at the same time, you'll also shrink the courage you need to take risks that improve your situation. Have you seen it happen?
5. Speak more about problems than about solutions and your brain rewires for a whinier you ... as it stores your growing den of complaints. You've likely encountered this in people who find fault at work ... but who rarely suggest good solutions to problems they face.
Fortunately, communication can also wire the brain for prosperity. You can move your brain into a better place … simply by communicating today … who you’d like to become tomorrow. Use tools such as good tone, for instance, and expect more good tone to lead you to a better place in the next day or so. The brain is shaped by your world and by responses you make to that world.
It’s that simple when you consider the way your brain works for or against you … to increase dendrite brain cells for a competitive edge … or to edge you out the game altogether. What do you think?











Hey, I like this a lot, Ellen! I've always been a firm believer in using our personal vision to help shape our own futures (at least the part we have control over, anyway).
I think a key skill here would be the ability to actually notice when we do these things, followed by the ability to make changes in our own behavior. Not so easy for some, but oh, so essential for good leadership!
Ironically enough, this thought also ties in with our next What I Learned From... project (notice how I deftly worked that in?), so I invite you to stay tuned! :-)
Posted by: Robert Hruzek | December 13, 2007 2:17 PM | Permalink to Comment