
Tone separates critics from creators when problems strike.
How so?
Tone’s a mind-bending skill that successful leaders use to get past overload, or stress, or exhaustion. Problems … magnified perhaps … by those who resist change become stepping stones to growth by those who cultivate tone. Have you seen it? ![]()
Let’s say you start a new program where the learning curve is too high, and the leader too hard to handle. Or you name the most frustrating problems that smack back daily.
Watch the next conflict … and observe how people who lack tone skills, react with meta messages, and resort to rants. Watch how a skilled leader weaves tone skills to help people build goodwill in times of conflict. It may mean risk though.
Tone also takes brain chemicals that help you to inspire others when the chips are down. It rarely sees silence as golden … yet inspires others to laugh even in times of trouble.
How does it happen?
You develop tone by doing and reflecting on successful outcomes you can create to lead others who are angry, troubled, exhausted or just plain confused.
Here’s ten tone pathways to cut through problems that overwhelm:
1. Tone transforms stress that shrinks the brain and offers solutions instead.
2. Tone removes any need to vent by offering new communication opportunities.
3. Tone helps you to avoid yes but … traps in favor of what if … possibilities.
4. Tone helps you to inspire others to reach past negative outcomes that strike.
5. Tone unpacks distinctive capabilities in others who may not see or use these.
6. Tone draws in even difficult people on all teams by inclusion tactics that work.
7. Tone cultivates compassion that gets zapped by people who lack of tone skills
8. Tone separates who grows anxious from who stays animated when problems arise
9. Tone transforms cortisol cranks who destroy progress daily … into serotonin creators who inspire change for a better way.
10. Tone increases your communication IQ and adds encouragement that changes any workplace.
Test your tone IQ and check out the meaning of your tone score. Do you punch out panic by creating community with the brain in mind? It describes the ethical mind and pulls ideas forward. Tone helps on-going questions – without water-tight answers - to increase curiosity, wonder and learning. It prevents chemical hormones that truncate progress for people. Tone allows you to speak and feel heard … while at the same time … you resolve conflict that leaves dignity and respect in tact.
You’ll see tone growth most, when stressors hit, anger flows, or you’re just plain exhausted, and you find you can laugh anyway – for your brain’s sake.











Hello Ellen:
Thanks for the series on tone.
Is tone an IQ issue or an emotional intelligence issue?
In your experience, do companies value and promote people with strong intrapersonal intelligence?
Posted by: Galba Bright of Tune up your EQ | October 14, 2007 8:21 AM | Permalink to Comment