Today I ran into a deep disappointment…. It came from a major miscommunication ….
To protect the other side … I’ll omit specific details … and settle for harmony that comes from a good resolution. Have you been there?
When disappointments hit … and they’ll often come at unexpected
times … and from corners we least expect… your brain has a few tools that can help you out…. First … consider all responses possible before you make any …. My choices included …1. Write to the person and ask an explanation for the miscommunication
2. Let it go … but avoid further dealings with the person in charge
3. Contact the person’s boss and ask for an explanation for the problem
After careful consideration I decided to choose none of these three options… Instead I focused my attention on how the human brain helps us back from deep disappointment … when a disconnect or miscommunication strikes. Here’s what I came up with…
1. Look for serotonin and run from cortisol – serotonin comes by focusing on something fun.
2. Refuse meta-messages we tend to use to let the other side see subtle signs of our frustration.
3. Find somebody who’s launching something you respect … and wish them fair winds in their ocean journey. It adds serotonin when you wish a person well and really mean it … and it also transforms personal disappointment into another’s well being.
4. Run from blame and avoid any desire for revenge … and your brain will find it easier let go of the cortisol-filled-frustration … that spilled in initially when the disappointment hit you.
What an amazing brain we have … to hold onto frustration is to build dendrite brain cells for anger or grief … and it does come back to bite you … often when you least expect it. Now that my brain has helped me to let go of disappointment … I’m ready to start its evening shift … with a little laughter… and expectation of fair winds for tomorrow’s journey…. How about you…?
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